Remember when Mackenzie Phillips came forward with the story about her 'consensual' sexual relationship with her Dad, John Philips that started when she was seventeen and lasted thirty years? And then the entire sane world basically screamed 'IT'S NOT CONSENSUAL WHEN IT'S INCEST' in unison?
Mackenzie now states that it was NOT consensual and that word always seemed wrong to her while she was writing her book 'High on Arrival'. She made these statements when she recently appeared on the Joy Behar Show (sorry about that Mackenzie, I'm surprised you got a word in edgewise.)
Anyway, now that she has had the opportunity to speak with many incest survivors since her shocking announcement last September, she realizes that that particular word was not the right choice.
Finally, we are on the same page: There is no such thing as a consensual incestuous relationship between a parent and child. Period.
Another positive thing to emerge from this sad story is how Mackenzie has now found a strong community of incest survivors that understand and accept her. They obviously helped her understand how the word consensual should never be used in this way. Mackenzie is quoted saying "Since then, I've been schooled by thousands of incest survivors all across the world that there really is no such thing as consensual incest due to the inherent power a parent has over a child."
I imagine that speaking out about something as horrific as incest can never be easy and finding a group of people who understand what she has been through must mean the world to her. She shouldn't feel alone in her struggle to find peace after such horrible violations in what should be the most trusting of relationships.
Parents shouldn't hurt their kids and call it love.
Here's hoping that Mackenzie keeps on moving forward in her recovery.
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katie (aka motherbumper) sometimes appears on her own blog but not as often as she should.
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