Minecraft Smashed My Son’s Innocence


The other day, my ten-year-old son’s faith in people took a huge hit.

This happens to us all, at around that age. Something completely crappy occurs, usually in the form of a classroom bully or nasty teacher. My son’s loss of innocence came from playing the single-biggest and fastest-growing game of our time … Minecraft.

 

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One game … to rule them all!

Developed in 2009 and officially released in November 2011 by Swedish game programmer Markus Persson, Minecraft is a virtual world video game. Players converge from countries around the globe, creating various types of blocks in a three dimensional environment. The player takes an avatar that can destroy or create blocks, forming fantastic structures, creations and artwork across the various multiplayer servers in multiple game modes. Basically, you make stuff, which is the only reason I let my kid play it. I like that it’s not some mindless shooting game or a crash-em-up car race. He gets to create things, and feel a sense of accomplishment afterwards. I’ve sat and watched him a few times without falling down from boredom.

It’s cool, seeing him with his special tools, mining for material like iron, aluminium, diamond, digging footings and building his own houses. He synchronizes with two of his best mates to all choose a time to go on a server together. Which of course means that other people are in the game, playing alongside them.

People I don’t know. Strange people, playing in cyberspace with my son. FREAKY.

 

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Have you checked the children?

 

Strict rules are in place, like not being in conversation with anybody you don’t know, never answering personal questions. (None have been asked. Yet.) It’s a big thing, to let my child go online like this. I worry. For good reason.

 

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I sat my kid down and told him that not everybody is who they say they are—hell, I find this in MY everyday life—and to be careful and keep his wits about him. He always plays in the same room as me, so I’ll often hear yelps and guffaws. Recently I heard him get very upset, really quickly. Pressing on the keyboards crazily. “I can’t believe this!”

I rushed over and watched as a gang of people destroying all of my sons work. Senselessly wrecking his house, killing his livestock—and trying to kill him. (They eventually succeeded.) He was in disbelief. “WHY? Why would people do this?”

He couldn’t believe it. I couldn’t believe that he couldn’t believe, and kept waiting for him to have an AHA moment of, oh that’s right. People are asses!

But he didn’t have an AHA moment, because he hasn’t learnt it, yet. He doesn’t know just how mean, nasty, and horrible people can be. Just for the sake of it. For kicks. I told him that no, it wasn’t fair. *Cue musical crescendo* … but that he could rebuild. He could bring his friends together and find new ways of building and creating their stuff. Maybe switch servers for a while. He was so bummed about it. Then had an epic idea of building something really cool right next to a trapdoor so the next time they came, he could attract them with something shiny and just push them in.

That’s my boy. Sweet, sweet revenge.

Days later he grew sad, again. I asked him if more people had destroyed his stuff, he shook his head.

“Nah …. I just got banned from the game for a while.”

Each character in Minecraft can choose clothes to wear, called “skins.”  My guy thought he’d try cheer his pals up during the rebuilding process, and chose some Borat skins.

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That’s Borat wearing his famous-yellow-swimsuit-skins.

I WAS SO VERY PROUD.

 

 

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About Edenland

Eden Riley has a dark past. She blogs at Edenland and lives near Sydney, Australia. She's a writer, mother, stepmother, idiot, derby girl. Eden once waited seven hours to meet Bono. She'd wait even more to meet Eminem but do NOT call her Stan. Her children breathed a new life into her. She has red hair and went to too many schools. It's hard to be her friend. Eden has a dark past dark past let her show u it.



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  • http://twitter.com/momofnandn Dawn Feakes-Lange

    Gah. People are such assholes and it sucks that they had to be so douchbaggy to your son. I am curious as to how the trapdoor thing works out and love the ‘skin’.  It has just the right amount of ‘fuck you’ touch.

    • http://www.edenriley.com/ edenland

      Thank you Dawn! My son and his cronies built other, bigger houses in a server which was more sedate. They still laugh about his Borat skins. 

      He’s learnt that some people are asses, and some are really cool. Just like real life!

  • http://twitter.com/littlestuff Laura LittleStuff

    He got banned for a Borat skin? That’s just mean!
    I’ve had similar yelps of anger and pain – I have three Minecraft obsessives of my own. Switching servers is a good plan – there are some very good ones, and some very nasty ones.
    I love Minecraft too. But when someone griefs your baby boy, you want to kick them in their real-life shins, huh?
    (Oh and report to the server admins – they can sometimes rectify, and can certainly get the perpetrators banned)

    • http://www.edenriley.com/ edenland

      Isn’t it, Laura! I didn’t know you could report troublemakers. One of my sons mates wrote to one of the destroyers, “I’m telling my mum on you.”

      And I was kind of like … dude.

  • http://www.josetteplank.com/ Josette Plank

    People been kicking over other people’s sandcastles for a long time now. It sucks. Always has. Always will. I hope the trapdoor works. Put some Weeping Angels down there. 

    That said, for all that can go wrong with the game, there is still so much that is right. It’s one of the few games I allow. And it’s like crack to my kids. They’ll do anything for an hour on Minecraft, from practicing violin to cleaning bathrooms. True story.

    • http://www.edenriley.com/ edenland

      True re. sandcastle kicking! And those Weeping Angels FREAKED me the hell OUT last week.

      I showed my kid your post here on MamaPop, he said it was “Way cool.”

  • http://twitter.com/StuffWithThing Marita

    Wow that sucks :( People can be so horrible for no good reason. My girls love playing Minecraft together on their iPads. I like that it is a creative game and my girls are working together rather than fighting. 

    • http://www.edenriley.com/ edenland

      Yes, Marita! I love how it is creative too. Constructive rather than destructive. 

      (And I will always love your iPad story xx)

  • http://profiles.google.com/sifdal Sif Dal

    I play minecraft along side my boys. They aren’t allowed on the general servers, so at first they played single player games at home, but then one of their friends set up a server and they played on that. Since then (last August) several other friends have set up private servers. This gives me some sense of security, in that I know who they are playing with (mostly, sometimes one or another child will invite a friend from another school or a cousin or something). I found ‘griefing’ (the process of destroying another players world and/or killing them) still happens, even amongst friends. Sometimes the kids ban one another. BUT in the process of all of this – because they’re also friends and/or relatives, they learn important lessons about consequences of selfish behaviour, and they learn the importance of many of the common rules in society (being considerate, cooperating, not slaughtering another persons animals or stealing their diamonds)… So, it’s been quite a journey. I, personally, love playing minecraft :D…

    • http://www.edenriley.com/ edenland

      WOW. This is fascinating, Sif. Thank you so much for that info …. my son’s friends dad was going to try set up their own server after it happened, they were all so sad about it.

      I like that you play, too. Is it easy to learn? If I started to play my kid would go NUTS. (In a good way.)

      eden 

  • http://www.busydadblog.com/ Jim Lin

    I kind of remember my kid before Minecraft. Kind of.

    • http://www.edenriley.com/ edenland

      I know, right!? It freaks me out … he’s way, way in there obsessed. Strict rules and times are in place now.

  • http://www.sweetney.com Sweetney

    Aww, my heart goes out to your boy. But the Borat skin is priceless. Worth getting banned over, even. :)

    • http://www.edenriley.com/ edenland

      Man I laughed. So awesome, to see such a sense of humour developing in this person I grew.

  • http://twitter.com/suburp nikki

    i could see how this game would be awesome for Nemo.. and a disaster at the same time. 
    we are working on the obsessions still, can’t shift the focus on the idiocy of people out there..

    this said, the ban for the Borat costume is hilarious and I will secretly go on minecraft myself =D