Dad Who Denies Daughter’s Make-A-Wish Disney Trip Grabs Lead As 2012′s Jerk Of The Year


William May’s 4 year-old daughter McKenna just spent the last two years of her first FOUR YEARS ONLY(!) on this planet undergoing treatments for leukemia.  Treatments that screwed with her speech, her immune system, and forced her to spend more time than any child (or anyone) should spend in the hospital.  But they were also treatments that eventually told cancer to walk it the fuck back.

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“Tonight, the role of Bitch will be played by Lou Quemia”

Today, Miss McKenna’s cancer is in remission and girlfriend wants to go to Disney World. The Make-A-Wish Foundation said, “Let’s do this.” As did her mother, Whitney Hughes. Daddy William?  Ennhh…not so much.

See, William and Whitney never married.  In situations such as theirs, if both parents are each granted visitation rights, Make-A-Wish requires signatures from each parent before they grant the Wish.  Whitney signed…because she’s human.  William, who, according to McKenna’s grandmother, was just recently granted visitation rights, didn’t.  As in: DID NOT SIGN OFF ON SENDING HIS CANCER SURVIVING FOUR YEAR-OLD TO DISNEY WORLD.

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My sentiments exactly, Jackie.

His reasoning?  Her cancer is in remission and trips like these should be granted to kids who are, um, I guess, sicker (?) than his kid.  Even though his kid just spent the last two years (of her FOUR YEARS ONLY on this planet) sicker than most of us will EVER be in our lifetimes.  His words from yesterday’s story on msnbc.com:

“Spend the money on a child who this might be their last memory…kids who are only going to live a year or six months.”

Two things here, folks:

  1. Ok, yes, charity needs to be taught to everyone everywhere no matter their age.  But, dude. William.  Time and place, bro.  This is not like if your daughter had a bed load of stuffed animals and was just gifted another one, so you tell her she should donate it to the neighborhood toy drive instead.  Your four-year-old just survived two years of grueling chemotherapy.  At the very least, she’s earned a trip to a place where she can hug a princess and indulge in overpriced everything.
  2. I’m cynical enough to believe that, because William was just awarded visitation four years after McKenna was born, that some ugly stuff went down between then and now and that this is some sort of disgusting power play/mind screw that he’s pulling for revenge – all under the guise of a morality lesson.  It’s either that or he’s truly a father out of a Pat Conroy novel because HOLY SHIT how do you not sign off on this trip?!
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Uh-oh, Joe!  You might be slipping to No. 2! 
Alright, and a third thing: I’m pretty sure Make-A-Wish is way cool with McKenna going to Disney World no matter her prognosis or current bill of health.  (They already tried to send her twice, but treatments forced her family to postpone.)  I don’t know too much about the organization—outside of any story that I see of theirs on TV making me sob and want to hold people—but I’m going to guess that they don’t run a candidate’s blood to check for an elevated white blood cell count before they board the plane.  They wanted McKenna to see Fantasyland and let her make believe for a day or two.  If she gets to go back to a reality that wasn’t as bleak as it was when her mother first contacted Make-A-Wish and told them her story, I think they’re just fine with that.

There’s a happy ending on the way in all of this.  Because the majority of people in this world are good (despite what just we may be tempted to believe after what went on in a Colorado movie theater this morning), McKenna will get to go to Disney World after all—just not through Make-A-Wish.  Word got around her town that her dad wouldn’t allow the trip, so people from her community and neighboring cities have sent her family enough money that McKenna, her mom, and her grandmother may go on their own.  William’s signature not required.

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Justin lives in Kentucky, is crazy about his wife and daughter, and wrote this short bio while Get Off Of My Cloud streamed from a laptop two workstations down from his.



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  • http://twitter.com/DanielleTodd DanielleTodd

    I just want to preface this comment by saying, I am not entirely in agreement with the father here, but he might have a point.

    I only say this because I have a friend that was always given special treatment because of things she endured when she was young. In doing so, we created a entitled, self indulgent monster, who still uses her past as a crutch. She’s in her late 30s now.

    My point is, maybe the father wants to avoid something like this by treating his daughter like a normal kid now that she’s well. No child ever suffered because they didn’t go to Disney World.

    On the other hand, he might just be a jerk.

    • http://twitter.com/MamaKaren Karen

      I would agree with that if McKenna was twelve years old and trying to get a trip to Disney because she’d had cancer ten years ago, but she just finally got into remission after having the trip she “earned” (assuming that a child with active cancer would deserve the trip, as her father contends).
      I full support not creating a lifetime spoiled monster out of kids who are sick in childhood (I face this every day with a certain member of the family I married into), but depriving this child of this trip because she’s not sick enough seems out of line to me.

  • http://twitter.com/momofnandn Dawn Feakes-Lange

    I can kind of see his point but here’s the thing: what if she relaspses? Then what? However, as half of her life has been spent in chemotherapy I’m thinking this little girl has more than ‘earned’ her right to this trip especially as it was postponed twice before due to her health.
    Great news kid, you’re all better! Sucks about losing that trip to Disney though.
    Given the circumstances though, he’s just being an asshat.

  • MollyGMartin

    What a story! I do see the argument in making sure very [currently] ill children are cared for first, but I’m with you, Justin: the kid has earned it and we can all (you, too, Dad) let this one slide.

  • crabby appleseed

    Make-A-Wish grants wishes to children with life-threatening/life-limiting conditions. Which she clearly has (only six months into remission, she is far from out of the woods, sadly). VERY few children who are actively undergoing children are healthy enough to have their wishes granted. And? Bro? PRETTY sure they’ve been around awhile. PRETTY sure they know how to run their business and don’t need you to help them triage which kids are worthy and when their wishes should be granted. He’s a dumbass at best, and at worst, clearly using this as a punishment/power play.

    • crabby appleseed

      *actively undergoing TREATMENT. ugh.

  • Tyskkvinna

    Make-A-Wish said very loudly that they *often* give wishes to kids who are in remission, are no longer sitting in fear of dying tomorrow, etc. Childhood cancer is a really rough ride and her immune system is probably pretty screwed. I’m happy she’s in remission but she’s going to be on edge for at least several years to make sure she is clean. Poor girl. That is not what a childhood should look like. :(

    I’m glad that people are stepping up to send her to Disney World. She deserves it.